What to do with a bad mark in the Russian language. There will be no more deuces in Russian

There will be no more deuces in Russian

A psychologist has come to your class. You should be happy - he will give you good advice, and psychological services on the side are now too expensive. But you are not happy. “Dysgraphia” is the verdict. Well, we’ve made it, now the teacher will not only reproach your first-grader for laziness and lack of effort, but will also classify him as not like everyone else. What is this terrible dysgraphia and why do they eat it?

Dysgraphia is difficulties in writing words, omissions and rearrangements of letters, dangling endings, and “strange” spelling. Dysgraphia can have many causes. The most common is a low level of development of phonemic hearing. The child does not distinguish some sounds, not only vowels, but also consonants. And since children in first and second grade write as they hear, they end up with terrible mistakes that are mistaken for typos, that is, inattention. Often children with undeveloped phonemic hearing themselves pronounce many sounds incorrectly. A speech therapist can help eliminate these problems. Three to four months of training - and the number of typos will be reduced by five times.

If a child has clear speech, but he still makes typos and misses letters, attention is to blame. His lack of stability and concentration is the reason for his poor performance in the Russian language. Most often, inattention manifests itself when copying from the board or from a textbook, while dictation is relatively easy for the child.

1. Write on a piece of paper ten meaningless words consisting only of consonants (ktmts, mvrglgk, etc.). The child must rewrite the words in a minute. The fewer mistakes, the more prizes. Complicate the task by connecting visual memory: show the sheet and remove it. The child will write down the words from memory. An excellent exercise for developing attention when copying text.
2. Read a short sentence out loud. Accompany your reading by quietly tapping your pencil on the table. The child must remember the content of the text and count the number of beats. You can invite your child to draw circles and count the strokes or claps at the same time. These exercises are useful for improving the distribution of attention - the child will be able to write correctly and listen to what the teacher says.
3. For concentration and stability of attention, it is best to use all kinds of “labyrinths” and “confusions” (“help the pig find his house”, etc.). If a child “unravels” such puzzles every day, his attention will become stronger and he will learn to perform work that requires concentration for a long time.

Very often, problems with writing arise in left-handed children. Teachers complain about the slow pace of work and instability of attention. It is known that the development of the right hand is directly related to the formation of speech in young children. When a left-handed person begins to write, the right hand is completely abandoned. In this case, oral speech suffers, and tongue-tiedness may occur during retelling. Therefore, it is recommended to give the child a load on both hands and, accordingly, on two hemispheres of the brain at once. Give your child a piece of paper and ask your child to draw triangles with his left hand (the dominant hand) and circles with his right hand. Through training, ensure that there are the same number of triangles and circles. If you train constantly, you will get beautiful handwriting, a high pace of work and competent speech.

Yulia GUREVICH

Parents care not so much about the child’s “rating” in comparison with other children (although this, of course, too), but about his internal feelings, his presence or absence of desire and will to overcome obstacles and resistance to failure. With the first five, perhaps everything is clear. This, of course, is joy, the consequence of which is the growth of the little person’s self-esteem, his more confident behavior in the children’s group, and this is a holiday for parents. But how will a beginning student react to first two? Actually, this is something to think about.

Anything can happen

Unfortunately, first two no one can escape - it can happen in the first grade, or maybe in the sixth, but it will happen someday anyway, because even a genius is not immune from “failures”. A variety of situations are possible: the teacher did not present the new material very clearly or was in a bad mood, angry with the whole class, the child himself showed normal, but not very useful human qualities in school, such as absent-mindedness, inattention to what is said in class . He may be upset, he may have a headache. While going through his personal troubles, he is able to miss an explanation or forget to write down his homework. He's a living person!

After all, knowledge and academic performance are far from the same thing. Progress and keep up are the same root words. The one who manages to solve problems in class, can quickly read, write, and also, without delving into the essence of the matter, completes homework at a pace, gets an A. Sometimes it’s a shame: a child has deep knowledge about the structure of the world around him, thinks a lot, reads encyclopedias, but he is given a bad grade for not having learned paragraph number five by today. But he's not a robot. His life is filled with events and experiences. He might have felt unwell the day before or been busy (preparing for a competition, playing the piano, going away with his parents). It turns out to be an unpleasant situation: he knows the multiplication table by heart, but the teacher did not find exercise number twenty in his notebook. The high performance of “high achievers” is the cost of the imperfect school system, which forces the child to be in constant stress throughout all the years of school.

So, deuce

I must say, this assessment is a terrible thing. However, setting a child the task of avoiding failures at all costs is a more than dubious goal; it is constant nervous tension.

A grade of two is, perhaps, the first serious test that befalls a child, the first test of his vitality. To be honest, few people pass this test with dignity. Even an adult who has graduated from school, technical school and two universities receives mental trauma if he fails to pass the exam at a driving school. What can we say about a child for whom a grade is something like a certificate of the quality of his personality! “Five” in the perception of a child means: “I am good, smart, beautiful, this world accepts me.” “Two points” kills on the spot: “I’m bad, I’m a loser, they don’t love me, the world rejects me.” Unfortunately, the school practices public grading. The child is shamed in front of the whole class: “Three cannot be taken away from seven!” No, look at him! Well? How much will?" "Two!" - the kid says hesitantly. “Here, I’ll give you two too!” - the teacher announces.

Or another well-known situation. The child is called to the board to answer. Trying to collect his thoughts, he is silent for a minute. “Thank you for the detailed story!” - The teacher grins sarcastically.

The class laughs in delight. Having received a bad mark, the child returns to his place, and everyone looks closely at the expression on his face. Will she cry? Will he smile a crooked smile, hiding despair? It is indecent to cry - they will laugh! Usually children blush and lower their eyes. They want to quickly hide, get lost among their peers, and not attract attention to themselves. I must say that after a bad grade, the child sits for the next fifteen minutes, or even the entire lesson, in a daze, does not hear anything, does not understand, and automatically copies from the board.

The shame was public, and now with his behavior the student seeks to prove that grades are not the main thing. An unsatisfactory grade is detrimental to further learning.

Remember the consequences

How to prepare your child for a possible bad mark and how to react if he has already received one. What should I do to prevent the loss of interest in studying, the loss of self-esteem, and the development of persistent resentment towards the teacher? “But mine doesn’t worry about bad grades at all!” - someone will say. Yes, the sensations eventually become dull. Indifference to grades comes with the realization that nothing good can shine in the field of educational activity and it is necessary to establish oneself in some other way. Such a child tries to gain authority in a dubious courtyard company, demonstrates strength, is deliberately proud of the well-being of the family, or strives for power over younger and weaker ones.

It is a great success if he compensates for the moral damage caused by twos by completely devoting himself to creativity or sports. Usually he himself gives up on his intellect. If at the same time his parents attach special importance to intellectual development, call the child stupid for failing him and show hostility, then he will soon move away from them and become indifferent to their words. A bad grade can not only interfere with your studies, but also destroy family relationships.

Assessments (according to the prevailing stereotype of perception) are a confirmation of the primary “social status” of the child, a kind of indicator of which social stratum he will belong to.

In kindergarten, everyone was equal, and at school the future is already outlined: excellent student = college = career = management position; poor student = unskilled labor = humiliation = hatred of the intelligentsia. As a result, the child may completely deny spiritual ideals - in spite of the teacher, that same evil representative of the intelligentsia who supposedly carries “eternal spiritual values” and humiliates the child with two marks because he did not have time to memorize them on time.

The impact of twos on the psychology of children has not yet been sufficiently studied. The problem can hide many pitfalls. Perhaps the schools of the future will abandon such straightforward assessments and try not to clip the children’s wings. But now twos are legalized, and our children have to live with them and resist them.

The most likely causes of twos

• Errors, misunderstanding of material

Sometimes the result can be negative. Parents should say: “Let the twos correct the course of your thoughts, and not upset you!”

• Indifference to studies, laziness

The situation is difficult - there is no motivation to study. A consequence of mutual misunderstanding with the teacher, a bad program, or missing material. You should find out what the matter is and try to create motivation for the child, at least by explaining the direct connection between academic success and future well-being, as is practiced in the West. A person must be able to work, withstand competition, and endure failures.

• Failure in the literal sense of the learning process goes quickly, not all children can keep up with it. No sooner have you completed the letters than you need to read fluently, etc. Fs are possible due to insufficient speed of work. Phlegmatic people are unlucky: they are often capable, but slow. Temperament, as we know, cannot be changed, so you need to warn the teacher that the child will prove himself more likely in difficult homework than in a quick survey.
• The program is too complex

Often parents make excessive demands on their child, send him to a prestigious lyceum with many difficult subjects, and send him to school too early. After classes, the child has a headache, he is tired and nervous. “In this lyceum you have to suffer all evening to get at least a C!” - then the parents worry. You should choose a school where studying, although difficult, is enjoyable, where difficulties are completely surmountable and you can get A’s with adequate effort.

• F's are not for knowledge

There are deuces because of behavior. There are character traits that “contribute” to getting a bad grade: absent-mindedness, inattention, thoughtfulness, self-doubt, anxiety. Helping the child become confident, strong, collected - this is the task of the parents in this case.

• Conflict with teacher

A teacher can cause both love for a subject and hatred. A lot depends on the relationship between the child and the teacher. The teacher does not always give grades objectively, and the child, even with good knowledge, may be afraid to answer the lesson. If it turns out that grades are influenced not only by knowledge, but also by the relationship with the teacher, parents should meet with the teacher more often, showing that they know what is happening and are ready to defend the rights of the child. You should not allow the teacher to dictate your will, you should try to establish a cooperative relationship - for the sake of the child. There are cases of obvious incompatibility between teacher and student. If such a situation arises in a primary school, it is better to transfer the child to another class.

• Accident

A certain percentage of random twos is always acceptable, as long as it does not exceed the norm.

• Conscious refusal to learn

Some children, having decided that they will not become engineers, may refuse to study mathematics, chemistry, etc. In this case, we need to talk about the benefits of general education, that even purely humanitarian professions (journalist, psychologist, lawyer) will benefit from technical knowledge invaluable.

When you look at the diary, pay maximum attention to positive assessments. You can remain indifferent to twos. Just ask: “Why are there not enough A’s? If you don’t know something, I will help you!” If the parent is not very well versed, for example, in intricate chemistry and is unlikely to be able to help, he can, on the contrary, ask the child: “Come on, I’ll sit with you, and you will explain the new material to me. I'd like to know that too." In short, pay more attention to scientific truth, not to estimates! If you discuss a bad grade with a child, then speak in a businesslike manner, without emotion. You can’t draw generalized conclusions from two, such as “you’re a fool” or “you don’t know physics.” On the contrary, it is necessary to localize the area for which the estimate was obtained as accurately as possible: physics - mechanics - Newton's second law. It is this second Newton’s law with all the variants of problems that must be properly studied and understood.

You should explain to the child that even with his good intelligence, failures can still happen and you need to be able to calmly correct them, and not fall into panic or rage. The ability to courageously overcome difficulties and not give up is very useful for later life.